The fixation of this mindset begins early. Society labels us, and we label ourselves. A child is told he is a good or a bad listener. A high school student thinks of herself as good or bad at math. These labels become even more entrenched in adulthood.
We are especially good at knowing what we are not. It's not unusual to hear someone say one of the following:
- "I'm not a morning person."
- "I don't eat Chinese food."
- "I'm not good at relationships."
- "Sports aren't for me."
- "I'm not an intellectual."
- "I don't understand art."
- "I don't read fiction."
- "I'm not the marrying kind."
You get the idea. When we box ourselves in, we can know only what is. We eliminate what could be. Missing from these self-definitions is any possibility of growth or potential. Continue reading.
Originally posted on MindBodyGreen.